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The Detrimental Effects of Verbal Abuse and How to Stop the Cycle

“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me.”

That’s just not true. Name-calling hurts — especially when the person doing it is a parent, a teacher, or a coach. Yelling and screaming might have been the way you were brought up and you might think it worked for you, so why wouldn’t it work for your kids? But did it? Remember how it made you feel. You probably felt belittled, devalued, and insignificant. You certainly don’t want your own children to feel that way. It may cause emotional trauma that can result in long-term hurt. Among other things, verbal abuse can undermine your child’s self-esteem, damage his ability to trust and form relationships, and chip away at his academic and social skills. Name-calling, swearing, insulting, threatening bodily harm, blaming or using sarcasm are all forms of verbal abuse.

What are the signs that a child is suffering from verbal abuse? They may have a very negative self-image. They may commit acts that are self-destructive, such as cutting, hitting or scratching themselves, as well as other reckless and dangerous activities. They may exhibit physical aggression, be delinquent in school, or display interpersonal problems. They may hit other children, frequently fight with classmates at school, or be cruel to animals. They may also exhibit delays in their social, physical, academic or emotional development.

Recent research suggests that children who suffer from verbal abuse are highly likely to become victims of abuse later in life, become abusive themselves, or become depressed and self-destructive later in life

It’s normal for most parents at one time or another to feel frustrated and angry with their children. They may lash out verbally in these instances and say things they later regret. It’s when these instances become more and more frequent that there is cause for concern. If this describes you, it’s imperative that you seek professional help to learn more positive, meaningful and constructive forms of discipline, and for help in learning methods to control your anger. Remember to give yourself a time out if you feel an outburst coming on. Try to refrain from saying mean, sarcastic or belittling things to your child. Remember, your child learns what he lives. Don’t be a bad example and teach him bad behavior early on.

Remember that your child is a precious gift and should be treated with love, kindness, respect and tenderness. If you exhibit these to your child on a daily basis, they will learn what they live and grow to do the same as adults.

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Let’s face it. There are just some days when it would just seem easier to let your child have his way than feeling like you’re fighting a losing battle when trying to discipline them. They beg, plead, cry, barter and scream – anything to get out of doing the time for their crime. However, don’t lose your strength and your will during this time. It’s times like these when consistent disciplinary action is imperative to teaching your child positive and acceptable behaviors. There is no room for negotiation when it comes to bad behaviors and there should be no room for exceptions when it comes time for punishing misdeeds or bad behavior.

Hopefully before any misdeeds occur, you’ve sat down with your child and discussed the consequences of misdeeds and inappropriate behavior or decisions. Be concise and consistent when discussing these consequences so that when the time to implement them comes, you can follow through with ease. Children are classically testing the boundaries and limits set on them on a continual basis, and the temptation to ‘bend the rules’ just once or twice can be overwhelming when they’re really trying your patience. But be firm yet fair. Emphasize that this was the understood consequence for this particular misdeed or inappropriate action, and that now is not the time to negotiate. Afterwards, take time out to discuss the situation with your child, and if it seems that perhaps a consequence that worked at first isn’t working anymore, rethink that punishment and negotiate with your child. Of course, parameters that are set for their well-being or safety should never be negotiated. But in other instances, it may be time to develop a new consequence based on your child’s age, temperament or maturity level.

It’s also imperative that your spouse and any other adult caregivers are all on the same page and following through on punishments with the same level of consistency and clarity. Should you determine that what was once working isn’t working anymore and develop a new parameter, be sure all adult caregivers are brought into the loop so that follow through remains consistent and clear.

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Teeth do not remain white. This is a part of life. Some teeth get discoloration from various things such as food, coffee and tobacco. Others may get discoloration from poor dental hygiene. Not enough brushing can cause your teeth to become yellowish in color. Then, theres also genetics. Some people may try their best to make their teeth whiter by brushing, but genetics can sometimes get in the way. Some people are just born to have discolored teeth. However, that does not mean that they have to live with discolored teeth. People who want to have whiter teeth can try various whitening products or services. One service that rises above the rest is Smile Glen Ellyn Teeth whitening.

The Smile Glen Ellyn teeth whitening service uses two different methods in giving you a more radiant smile. In order to find the proper method for you, you need to come in for an interview and preliminary examination. A specialist will be able to tell you if you are, indeed, qualified for a teeth whitening procedure. Here are the two methods used by the Smile Glen Ellyn teeth whitening service:

1) At-home Many patients opt to have the at home procedure from Smile Glen Ellyn teeth whitening services. This is because of the fact that many people do not have the time to spare to go to the dentist for a long appointment. This method, as implied by the name, can be brought home. A patient is fitted with a mouthpiece which would hold the bleaching material against the patients teeth. The results for this procedure are excellent.

There are a few things that need to be said about this method, however. First of all, this method takes a longer time than a procedure done in the office. Up to 10 days of treatment may be recommended by a dentist for better results. This is because of the fact that it involves less concentrations of bleaching agent. However, there are also instances during the treatment when your teeth may become sensitive to heat and cold. In case this happens, a desensitizing agent is provided.

Hey, sometimes beauty takes sacrifice, right?

2) In-office This procedure is more effective than the at-home method, and may require several appointments to complete. This method involves higher concentrations of bleaching agents and therefore, requires a professional to supervise it. In this procedure, your gums are covered in order to protect them from the adverse effects of the bleaching agent. After the agent is applied, a high-intensity light is applied to speed up its activation.

The ZOOM! Treatment is included in the at-home method of smile glen Ellyn teeth whitening services. This treatment was made famous by the show extreme makeover. This treatment is designed for people who want to have whiter teeth but do not have very much time to get them. The ZOOM treatment offers same day lightening. Within one hour, you can have the whiter teeth that you dream of. Isnt that just amazing?
One of the questions surrounding the smile glen Ellyn teeth whitening services is safety. People want to know if the procedure will help and not harm them. Be assured, professionals will supervise the bleaching process and Smile glen Ellyn teeth whitening services will not leave you susceptible to tooth decay or other harm.

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