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Some parents may worry that setting strict rules may distance them from their children. But this simply isn’t the case. Though they may gripe and complain and get upset when you become the enforcer, they realize deep down that this shows you care. These parameters you set forth and enforce make your child feel loved, safe, and secure.

It’s never easy developing and introducing rules. Parents may tend to avoid setting rules because they fear confrontation and unpleasantness. But the uncomfortable stuff isn’t necessarily a reflection on your relationship with your child, it’s just the nature of adolescence – breaking rules and pushing limits is a part of growing up. We tend to want to be our child’s friend sometimes, and when we’re laying down the law that just isn’t possible. Our primary role is to protect, nurture and provide for our children.

When kids break rules, parents often overreact with harsh, disproportionate and unenforceable punishment, which undermines the effectiveness of setting rules. Instead, when you first tell your child about a new rule, discuss the consequences of breaking that rule – what the punishment will be and how it will be carried out. Consequences must go hand in hand with limits so that your child knows what the cost of breaking the rules will be. The punishments you set should be reasonable and related to the violation. For example, if you catch your son and his friends smoking, you might “ground” him by restricting his social activities for two weeks.

Punishments should only involve penalties you discussed before the rule was broken. Also, never issue empty threats. It’s understandable that you’ll be angry when house rules are broken, and sharing your feelings of anger, disappointment, or sadness can have a powerfully motivating effect on your child. Since we’re all more inclined to say things we don’t mean when we’re upset, it’s sometimes best to give ourselves a time-out period to cool off before we say something we don’t mean.

Make the ground rules crystal clear to your child. It’s imperative that you are consistent and follow through with a defined disciplinary action after each infraction, and that your child understands the reasons why.

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Do As I Say and As I Do
Children learn to imitate at a very young age. It’s how they learn to behave, care for themselves, develop new skills, and communicate with others. From their earliest moments they watch you closely and pattern their own behavior and beliefs after yours. Your examples become permanent images, which will shape their attitudes and actions for the rest of their life.
It’s important to be responsible, consistent and loving with your child. This also holds true for the relationship you have with your spouse, your parents, and other family members and friends that are also a part of your child’s life. Own up to mistakes when you make them, and communicate open and honestly with all family members.
It’s also important to take good care of yourself. When we’re focusing on what’s best for our child it’s easy to neglect our own needs. Your child and your family are counting on you physically and emotionally, so it’s imperative that you teach your child by example that taking care of yourself helps you to take care of them and the rest of your family. This shows your child that not only do you love them and the rest of the family, but you love yourself as well. This is an important step in teaching your child about self esteem. This may involve getting a sitter and treating yourself out to dinner and a movie, or doing another favorite activity on your own. This teaches your child that you are not only their parent, but your own person with your interests and needs, and also gives them a chance to show you how well they can do without you with them for a while.
It’s also important to nurture your relationship with your spouse. Let your child see you communicate in a positive and healthy manner with one another, and show love and affection for one another so your child can begin to learn early on what a healthy marriage should be like.
You’ll soon see your child patterning many of his behaviors after your own. So make sure that what you say and do around your child will help build a strong sense of security and self esteem.

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Many people know the unfortunate situation theyll be facing when they age. Their metabolism slows down when they get older and theyll notice that losing weight is no longer as easy as it used to be. If you are starting to notice that you are steadily gaining pounds even if your diet and exercise level has not changed, you may already be experiencing a slow down with your metabolism. This, however, does not have to be the end of the world. If there were no solution to this problem, then we would definitely see everyone in the aging community getting bigger.

Therefore, you do not have an excuse if you were to become complacent and simply accept weight gain. There are a number of ways you can help rev up your waning metabolism. First of all, you have to understand what metabolism is. In its most basic definition, it is all of the chemical and physical processes that occur within your body and that are necessary to sustain life. There is a close relationship between weight loss and metabolism. In fact, these chemical and physical processes require energy. To have some energy to burn, you need calories in your system. Every function in your system utilizes those calories in order to work properly. Even if you didnt do anything but eat and breathe, youd still need some sort of battery power to make these movements possible. If you were to lead a more active lifestyle, youd need additional calories. Obviously, youd require more if you had to do more than the usual work.

You can simply look into improving your metabolism with diet changes. Of course you must first consult your doctor to be able to do this properly. If you are one to enjoy constant snacking, it would be better to divide your diet into six mini meals spread throughout the day. Why is this better? Well, since digestion requires calories, you will only be able to enjoy the benefit of burning calories with the number of meals youve made. Dividing your meals into smaller and more frequent ones means that you are requiring your digestive system to work more than usual. It also allows you to better use and to effectively absorb your nutrients because your body can only take in a small amount with each meal. When you consume too much in one sitting, you are just storing the excess in your body.

A common misconception is that there are foods that burn fat better than others. This could not be further from the truth. Some foods may speed up metabolism, but they do not cause weight loss. What is most important is that you carefully select what you eat. Choosing whole grains and fiber-rich foods gives you more energy for digestion. Exercise can also do a lot of good for you. Not only do you burn calories, you also enjoy an additional expenditure of calories as your body cools down from a strenuous session.

You should be in control of your life and your body. Taking action is one way to enjoy your body even as you age. Your life will quickly turn for the better and you will begin to reap the benefits of the new you with a bit of discipline and initiative.

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